New Year Resolutions - Really.......

It's this time of the year - when we all RESOLVE to do something to make our life better - atleast that's what I understood about resolutions.

A decision to act / do something to ensure we have a better life than the past year - and since we CHOOSE to ACT it becomes obvious that the situation will be better...

But do we really "Choose to ACT" at all....

The entire social media and mindshare of common man is engulfed by grief about the "Delhi Rape Case".

Yet - many believe this is a one off case that caught media fancy - which is why there is so much information about it. Can we discount this claim - unfortunately NO.

All of us are sad and concerned - Sad about the state of affairs and the inability of OUR elected representatives to do anything at all...

And concerned that tomorrow it might be any one of us - and it would be no different - just a different name and a different photograph....

But then "What can we do?"
- We are so away from the crime scene
- We don't have any control over how people in Delhi behave
-  We can only feel bad - not in our hands really.........

IS IT REALLY

How many of us have witnessed eve teasing - when the victim is another girl and we just walk past  saying this is all common - Reasons are any of these

- She must have done something - we don't want to get into a mess
- I am not a local here so I better stay out
- He is a local goon so its very unsafe

And the one that takes the Cake - "I'm in a hurry - no time". If the victim were you then.... do u think that girl there has the time and is enjoying it???

So REALLY if you WANT a New Year Resolution that truly impacts your life then "Choose to ACT"..

• Every time you see someone downplaying a girl or talking crap about a girl - getup and talk - don't just listen like dead wood - speak up right there....

• Every time you see a girl being troubled - try and help her - there must be some smart way to save a girl out of an uncomfortable situation

• Every time a girl refuses - RESPECT her choice - and let her be

• Every time there is an IDIOT who states "We can't do anything - its the girls fault" give them one tight slap and tell them tomorrow it could be your sister / daughter then would you think the same?

AND Most IMPORTANT - It's the current generation of Guys who NEED to do this...

You are the lucky lot who get to enjoy the company of intelligent , independent women who can think and act on their own - who give you space and work with you to make life better at home and work.

You are the lucky lot for whom some of the most intelligent women have given up their careers to be your wives - would you do that for them - I doubt....

So when some IDIOT is stereotyping women as dumb decorative pieces - if you keep silent - you rather deserve a sample of that rather than the gem of a person you currently have.......

SCHOOLS and COLLEGES - are to be ready to - they have all senseless lessons in life - Wonder why "SELF DEFENSE" is not an important part of it.

I would make the parents of girls responsible too - if your daughter can come out of school being a math / science wiz why not a black belt in karate....

You have the common sense to take "Child Education Insurance" for the future have you thought of Child Safety insurance in the form of Self Defense....

I might sound very negative/pensive and angry but its true - parents today are busy sending their daughters to dance classes and music classes even to finishing schools - which I agree is good in a way - but why not Karate / any other self defense class.

How many parents of boys have thought of sending them to finishing school to learn how to behave well with a lady? - They would learn as they grow up right - why this fundamental difference in thought process - this is where the differences start from - HOME.

Exercise and fitness is a priority for boys why not girls - the fitter they are the better they can handle any such mishaps - if they are all alone.

I know this is all a vent and wishful to a certain extent - but its also very practical to my mind. As a child my parents gave me a lot of independence to do what I liked , have fun and discover life with a sense of safety...... we MUST work to pass on that as a LINEAGE to the next generation.

Girls/ Boys - all of them from the next generation must be taught "Lessons in Respecting Women" and valuing them in the system at all levels.

Am not sure how much this makes sense... but my New Year Resolution - for now is to "Choose to ACT"...... and ACT at the right time........

 Wishing you all a Happy New Year where you choose to make it a better life for yourself..........

 

 

Happy 2013......