All along for a while now i have been trying to still understand what is management, in its various forms under several names and how it manifests itself in the corporate world. Why does a company invest in some positions on the top rung that do not contribute to the profit numbers directly but are all vital for its working well.
I have recently begun to understand that i have used most of the techniques in my parenting style ( very subconsciously) and they have bombed badly. Am not really sure if it's only my child ( mischief personified) or it is the same case all around the world.
We had recently gone to this industrial exhibition.. and i had prepared my kiddo well in advance that he can buy any 1 thing... a game / toy or anything else - but only ONE. What i totally forgot to clarify is that its 1 across his trip - so he conveniently applied this and said 1 from Mummy, 1 from Daddy, 1 from Grandpa , 1 from Grandma, 1 from Uncle and 1 from Aunt. By now i think he had all that he wanted and i was still wondering why i missed this point.
Then there was this other time that i tried to apply negotiation skills (now i regret). He has been asking for a bicycle for a few months now. I have promised that he can get it on his next birthday. Recently he came and asked for a desktop ( we don't have one yet). Then i told him - Look dear you can have either this or that - and you cannot choose 1 day before - you have to tell me now so that i can place an order.
After 2 days the conversation was like this :
Son - Mummy when i become big can i work on the computer
Me - Yes beta you can
Son - How many years do i have to be?
Me - (wondering where this is heading to) 10 to 12 years (did i say something too quickly)
Son - OK then i want a bicycle - when i am 10 you will automatically buy me a computer - i was pleased this negotiation thingie was working, probably a tad too early
After 2 more days
Son - Mummy you know my teacher in school told me children can use computer from 6 years onwards. You can go and talk to her and then buy me that computer next year when i become 10 you can then buy me computer 10 year olds use.
So this essentially means he wants both. Negotiation training failed - he gets what he wants...
After this point i have decided to stop applying all this at home and be a simple straightforward Mom.. i would rather be prepared than expect miracles.. am just hoping that there are better stories around the world.
